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What is Edging in Sex?

edging in sex

Sexual Edging Meaning: Benefits, How to do it etc

Sex is one of the most important psychological-cum-physiological needs of a human being. Whether the person is heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, or even asexual, it remains important irrespective of how they identify, explore and experience their sexuality. 

What is equally, important, is the right way of having it, and also keep enhancing it. Yes, you can actually enhance and boost up your peak moments and make yourself feel at your best, like never before. Speaking of which, the magic lies with ‘Edging’. So, what is edging? Let us dig deeper into it. 

What does Edging mean in Sex?

Edging is the practice of stopping oneself from reaching orgasm just when he or she is on the verge of having a sexual climax. It involves techniques of increasing sexual stimulation and then stopping just before the peak point of pleasure is reached i,e experiencing the orgasm, and then starting the buildup all over again. The “edge” is the point just before orgasm. It is also referred to as surfing, peaking, teasing, etc. 

It is done with the intention of making sex last longer, extending the feeling of an orgasm, and making the orgasm more intense. Edging allows one to explore his or her sexual pleasure and finish when it is absolutely right or perfect for that person.  

Benefits of Edging 

Edging can be advantageous for both people who practice on their own and those who practice with their sex partners.

The International Society for Sexual Medicine suggests that edging can intensify sexual activity for some people. 

1. Helpful in attaining Oorgasm

Trying to attain an orgasm often brings loads of anxiety to many women. A 2014 study of 96 women showed that women who masturbate reach orgasm more often. Edging by yourself provides the opportunity to get to know your own body much better and rediscover the desired pleasure. 

2.  Intensifies the Orgasm

Edging or orgasm control often leads to more powerful orgasms and much prolonged sexual pleasure. OMGYes, a website focused on bringing attention to the female orgasm, reports that 66% of women who edge have longer and much more intense orgasms. 

3. It increases Sexual Stamina

A study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that men last an average of 5.4 minutes before finishing during penetrative sex. In comparison, a 2019 study found that it takes women an average of 13 minutes and 25 seconds to have a real orgasm-almost three times as long. 

Edging can help partners get in sync. Hence, experts are of the opinion that edging can improve male stamina, and incorporating the ‘stop/start’ method in the bedroom can help both partners achieve greater sexual satisfaction and enjoy longer-lasting sessions. 

4. Helps in self-discovery or self-awareness

Since edging is all about being aware of your body and what it’s feeling, the practice can really help you be more present as a whole. “It can help to build body confidence and allow individuals both within relationships and out to tune into their bodies with a greater sense of self-awareness, incorporating mindful values and approaches,” says Harrison.

How to Edge Yourself? 

1. The Start-stop Technique

Men may try the start-stop method of simply stopping and stroking or stimulating and then starting all over again after a break of a few seconds. This is nothing but teasing and extending the time of reaching the peak of sexual pleasure instead of immediately giving in to experiencing the orgasm.

2. The Squeeze Technique 

Depending on his level of sensitivity, a man may try the squeeze technique in addition to the start-stop method which may delay the orgasm bit longer than a few seconds. This particular technique involves stopping stimulation and squeezing the head of the penis for about 30 seconds, and then again starting from the beginning. It may take some practice to be able to control orgasms. One may try to start with holding up to 30 seconds, and then gradually increase the period as one masters edging.

3. Ballooning 

This type of edging involves Kegel exercises and is designed to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles. As one slows or stops stimulation just before reaching orgasm, he may try doing some form of Kegels. The technique is called ballooning, as men may find their erection deflating and growing during this process.

4. Trying out different Sex Toys 

Women may opt to use a vibrator with powerful direct clit stimulation and an easy on/off button in order to practice edging. In such a scenario, the ability to quickly turn off the toy right before you reach orgasm is what is required to be practiced.

5. The Diversion

Diversion is when you are just about to reach orgasm, you stop the stimulation and simply divert or change to a gentler form of touch elsewhere on the body. In the case of trying it with a partner, they just have to stop stimulating the clitoris and simply move to somewhere else like breasts or the inner thighs.

6. Mindfulness 

Sexologists are of the opinion that by keeping the mind fully immersed in the act of edging, a person will find it easier to slow down when they feel too close to climax. Being mindfully intentional during edging can greatly enhance the entire experience.

How Long to Practice Edging? 

Doctors suggest practicing edging for about 5 to 10 minutes every other day. The longer a person can delay having an orgasm, the stronger the physical sensations will be when the climax is reached. 

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