Although many of us might be very much aware of, and practice ‘foreplay’ quite well in our real-life scenarios, things might not be the same for all of us. For a considerable number of people, the idea of ‘foreplay’ is limited to just fingering and oral sex. Hence, it is high time to spread awareness about foreplay which can mean a lot of different things too. Let us dig deeper into it.
What is Foreplay?
Foreplay is defined as an action or behavior that precedes an event. In terms of sex, foreplay is usually defined as erotic stimulation preceding intercourse.
Also known as ‘Outercourse’, the scope of ‘Foreplay’ in sex, encompasses any sexual activity followed before intercourse. Foreplay can include things like kissing, cuddling, touching, or just talking.
It is like the warm-up before the main event, i,e intercourse; although foreplay does not always have to be ended up at intercourse. In fact, penetrative sex doesn’t need to be the climax of the story. A great session of foreplay can be much more interesting and enjoyable when done right.
What does Foreplay mean?
Different people have different understandings about “Foreplay”. As stated just above, foreplay does not always have to necessarily lead to intercourse, and intercourse also does not have to be the main event that couples should look forward to or even have in mind if they do not want to. Rather, they can actually keep it limited to foreplay; as foreplay itself can be sufficient or powerful enough to attain orgasm, when done in the right way.
As a matter of fact, research has long shown that many women don’t experience orgasm with intercourse alone. So, as long as there’s consent, one may try various interesting things and prolong their time to reach orgasm or ejaculation.
What does Foreplay include & How to Explore Foreplay with your Partner?
Foreplay means different things to different people. Some people may enjoy it so much that they never get around to intercourse. As long as everyone consents to the activities, the most important thing is that you’re enjoying yourself.
One interesting aspect of foreplay is that one need not have to be in the same room with his or her partner in order to indulge in foreplay. Sending a romantic or a sexy text, or preparing a romantic dinner date at home, can all be different ways of foreplay. These can be great ways to start off or add more arousal into your life. Let your kisses, touches, and nibbles teach you both how tempting foreplay can get, and then let it lead your way to sex.
- Asking your partner for a dance
- Sending a sensual massage
- Discussing sexual activities you want to engage in
- Taking a shower together
- Watching a sexy movie together
- Exploring kinky toys
- Getting messy or having fun with food
The list might be endless.
The more open and honest you can be with your partner about the sexual activities that excite you, the more likely you are to enjoy sex, which can lead to a fulfilling sex life.
One of the best ways to enjoy foreplay is to talk with your partner or partners ahead of time about what works for you and what doesn’t. Everyone enjoys different things, and you shouldn’t expect the other person to know what you want until you say it.
For example, some people enjoy light touches up their arms during foreplay. For others, gentle touches may be too overwhelming, so they might prefer a firmer touch. Clear communication about what works for your body can help make foreplay enjoyable.
Why is Foreplay important?
There are numerous reasons for foreplay being so important in a couple’s daily life. It somehow triggers both physiological as well as physical responses that make sexual activity highly enjoyable and desirable.
Foreplay is much more than just a feel-good aspect. At times, it becomes extremely helpful in building emotional intimacy that can make you and your partner feel much more connected in and out of the bedroom. Adding foreplay into your relationship can help partners grow closer by triggering hormones that deepen their connections.
Foreplay also lowers inhibitions, which can make sex hotter between couples and virtual strangers alike.
Foreplay can make sex more exciting, and in case stress is pulling down the libido, a little foreplay may be highly effective. For example, kissing releases oxytocin, serotonin, and dopamine. These feel-good hormones lowers cortisol (stress hormone) levels, and increase feelings of affection, bonding, and euphoria. Thus, you get rid of all the tension that were until then messing in you, even when with your partner, and you enjoy sex even more.
Even for people who are single, foreplay as a part of masturbation can help a lot in discovering one’s own body, sexual instincts, and what excites and what does not. Hence it can be a great self-discovering tool for anyone.
Foreplay also helps get your body ready for sex. It excites you in a way that your heart beats faster, thereby increasing blood flow to your genitals and helps in lubricating the vagina with its secretions. This makes sex more pleasurable and prevents pain during intercourse.
Foreplay increases sexual arousal, which is not the same as with sexual desire; although it can do that as well. Sexual arousal causes a number of physical responses in your body, like:
- an increase in heart rate, pulse, and blood pressure
- dilation of blood vessels, including the ones in genitals
- more blood flow to the genitals, which causes the labia, clitoris, and penis to swell
- swelling of the breasts and erect nipples
- lubricating of the vagina, which can make intercourse more enjoyable and prevent pain
Myths or Misconceptions about Foreplay: What is the solution?
The most predominant myth or misconception about foreplay is that partners who don’t do it are lazy or selfish. Rather, it might be due to just a lack of sexual confidence or experience. Some habits that can solve this issue are:
- Having the right kind of communication
- Keeping sexual talk positive
- Not to accuse or shame partner
- Taking the lead if partners don’t seem interested or confident about foreplay
It’s important to keep in mind that, for some people, foreplay is a very important aspect of sex. For example, many women cannot really reach orgasm from intercourse alone, and foreplay becomes immensely helpful for them in this regard.